During a discussion about marriage on the Ellen Degeneres Show, Will Smith gave Ellen the key to their long standing Hollywood marriage: Ain’t nobody f*cking leavin’! (That’s me interpreting for Will Smith.) The Oscar-nominated actor states “what I found is divorce just can’t be an option…It’s really that simple. And I think that’s the problem with L.A. – there are so many options. So a huge part of the success for [Jada] and I is that we just removed the other options. We’re like listen, we’re going to be together one way or the other so we might as well try to be happy.”
That’s a good look, really. However to get to that point, serious discussions (and agreements) about finances, child-rearing, religion, marriage roles, and future expectations MUST take place BEFORE the marriage…this is where most people err. Once a good foundation for marriage is in place, THEN Will’s advice becomes applicable, at least in my opinion. Divorce, like having children out of wedlock, is way too easy and too common. In this society of instant gratification and adversion to dealing with strife, very little value is placed on the personal growth and positive affect on childrens’ upbringing derived from a marriage. I have had discussion with people who balk at the idea of getting married, but having a child outside of marriage…NO PROBLEMO! (Funny, I consider myself a liberal with socially conservative tendencies!)
Now the flip side, staying in a “bad” marriage or having a spouse commit an unforgivable act (which is dependent on the couple’s rules of marriage). If after deep consideration and lots of effort to repair a marriage, you are at point where you are considering sending your spouse (or yourself) to the “upper room”, it maybe time to call it a day. Hopefully it will be amicably, ESPECIALLY if you have children.
Makes you wonder if Will and Jada have a line that neither can cross? Were those rumors true about an open marriage or Eva Mendes?