There are only so many times you can have the same argument. At some point you have realize that the two of you are not going to agree. Once you decide to stop arguing, you are left with the choice to accept his behavior or end the relationship. A person CAN change if they truly want if the new behavior is a very high priority for them and the change in their actions takes place IMMEDIATELY…if those steps are not occuring, either he really does not want to change or willing to do what is necessary.
The clip (NSFW) shows the classic case of a woman, Mimi from Love and Hip Hop Atlanta, frustrated after having to deal with same issue over and over again, in this case, the infidelity of Stevie J. Regardless of your view of reality television, or LHHATL in particular, the video show a common and devastating issue in relationships. The types of problems being discussed here are not everyday tifts, but disagreements concerning non-negotiables. Mimi’s rage is probably very familiar to many women who have try repeatedly to find multiple ways to relay hurt/pain/disgust and trying to get him to understand why there HAS to be a resolution. Men don’t seem to realize that once there has been a breach of trust/loyalty, it becomes a scar on the woman’s soul and repeated violations (or lack of repairing the problem) causes the scar to deepen. The rage is usually accompanied with a desparate plea for her significant other to acknowledge her pain and QUICKLY move to resolve the issue.
Interestingly, men quite often want their SO to just calm down (which Stevie J alludes to throughout the series) and stop bringing up the issue. Women refuse to brush it aside because the behavior and cycle continues. Hence, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. This series will try to shed light on the starkly constrasted views of men and women concerning relationships.